Signs You're Dating a Narcissist

No one intentionally falls for a narcissistic person (unless that's your type). But before realising who he or she truly is, you may initially be attracted to someone who's charming, sweet, and deeply interested in you. They sweep you off your feet by pulling all the stops from flower deliveries to extravagant dinner reservations, and it works . . . at least, for a little while. Until the person who completely wooed you starts to act like someone you barely recognise, and you're stuck in a relationship with a partner who cares more about themselves than anyone else — including you.

The most dangerous part about dating a narcissist is that it's not always so obvious. See if the signs ahead sound familiar and if they do, consider finding an exit and fast.

They wanted to take things really fast.

Right off the bat, he or she seemed to be completely invested in the relationship. Instead of being concerned about how consumed they were, you were flattered by their infatuation. Things got intense very quickly and they weren't afraid to make your relationship exclusive so soon — a ploy to gain control.

At one point, they turned on you.

Once you were hooked on them, they were fast to turn their back. The sweet and selfless person that you initially fell for is now unpredictable and moody, and often makes it your responsibility to appease them.

They have a sob story.

When the two of you first began getting to know each other, they were quick to open up and share their vulnerable side. You fell right into their trap when you comforted them and gave them the attention they wanted. Though their story could be completely true, they used it to their advantage to build an illusion of trust.

They bring you down to make themselves feel better.

Anytime that they're feeling insecure, they feed on bringing others down. They may be projecting their personal issues onto you, and in turn, you feel like you're doing something wrong in the relationship. Narcissists always need somebody to blame and have difficulty holding themselves accountable for anything that doesn't glorify them.

They insist on their way and their way only.

What originally seemed to be a balanced partnership has gradually turned into a one-sided situation. They don't like to compromise and easily show anger over things they disagree with. To avoid fighting, you often give in and do what you're told.

They think they're above the law.

In line with their superiority complex, he or she thinks they can get away with anything. They have zero consideration for others and aren't afraid to question authority because they're convinced that they're better than everyone else.

They don't follow through on promises.

Whether it's as small as dinner plans or as significant as being a better partner, many of their promises are empty. They're good at telling you what you want to hear but they don't actually intend on coming through. They know exactly the right words to say, but narcissists are never reliable people.

They can turn into a different person like a switch.

It's frightening how easily they can transform into an entirely different person so quickly. Narcissists know how to put on a good show. They'll charm the pants off of people in public, but reveal their true selves behind closed doors.

They're manipulative.

He or she is a pro at mind games. They know exactly how to keep you in the palm of their hand because they know the right moments to be nice. They often try to make things up to you by being overly apologetic, showering you with gifts, or by being uncharacteristically attentive in hopes that you'll forget all about how terrible they treated you.

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