Things inevitably change as you get older, but that doesn’t mean you have to stop having sex.

Many people enjoy an active sex life well into old age, with some couples reporting that sex gets better with age.

Your sexual desires and appetite for sex can change over the years for many reasons. This is normal, and there's no right or wrong level of sexual activity at any age. It's a personal thing and everyone is different.

Ageing causes many normal changes in the body, some of which may affect your sexual desire.

But there are plenty of ways to enjoy sex. Some couples find new enjoyment of sex without having penetrative sex.

Enjoy all the feelings of arousal with your partner, not just the orgasm. Take time to be more sensual:

  • Stroke and caress each other's skin.

  • Have a bath or shower together.

  • Kiss with passion.

  • Take time to undress each other.

  • Tell each other what you like and how you like to be touched.


Many people give each other oral sex or masturbate together as a healthy and enjoyable part of their sex life.

You may find talking to your partner about your feelings and sexual desires helpful, although it's not always easy to do.